The end of the year tends to spark a reflection process where we think about all of the experiences we had during the year, some moments much happier than others. Reflection is always a good practice because it helps us process and grow, but it is easy to turn reflection into destructive self-criticism, especially for those of us who are more susceptible to the topsy-turvy emotions and stress that the holiday season showers on us.
When our lives do not match up with what we envisioned we would have accomplished by now, our state of being can get bleak. Perhaps we pictured being our own boss by age forty, or purchasing a house and starting a family, moving to a bigger city with more opportunities, or traveling and experiencing other parts of the world. The list is endless because we all have our own specific aspirations that we have engrained in our minds, in some instances we created these visions decades ago. Our thoughts can be constant reminders of these desires and when they have yet to manifest we can jump into a destructive self-criticism mode.
Continue reading Self-Actualization and Aspirations: Are You Where You Thought You’d be by Now?
Something unexpected has happened. In the act of throwing myself into action and constantly ‘doing,’ I have become emotionally drained. All of the stimulation of recent experiences has left me feeling saturated with internal responses that I’ve had a difficult time processing.
We get wrapped up in being busy, in filling each time slot with something to do, and sometimes all of this action backfires. In the process of trying to follow the cliché of ‘living life to its fullest,’ we become the complete opposite: unfulfilled.
And, when we start to feel unfulfilled, we search for the source of this feeling, which means we start to question how we are living our lives, our relationships with others, our core values…basically everything.
Continue reading When too much action becomes overwhelming: Dealing when things backfire
These past months I’ve been saying ‘yes’ to new experiences that present themselves and doing so with an open mind. But it’s been almost 5 years since I first started craving getting my first tattoo, and this past month the idea kept pestering me even more.
As an ENFP, permanent decisions are difficult for me to make. I’m always on the lookout for how to make things better, how to experience more, what more desirable opportunity awaits around the corner and committing to permanency challenges the possibility of these endless options.
Continue reading Because Our ‘Firsts’ are Awesome…Sometimes