We’ve all heard it before: if you don’t learn the lesson the first time around, you’re bound to see it resurface until the day that you do. And, chances are that with each repetition of the experience, the more brutal the consequences become of not “getting it” the first time.
And even though we recognize that going down the same path will lead us to a story whose ending we know and dislike, sometimes we still choose to go down the same road another time.
In spite of our experience, we entertain the idea that this time around the plot will have an unexpected twist that will alter the ending that we have relived.
We’ve all been there. We get attached to an idea, to a potential, out of stubbornness or habit, perhaps even hope or pride. We get stuck replaying the same story and when the result ends up being the same one that we recognize all too well, we get frustrated with ourselves for taking the same steps over and over again and expecting different results.
Lately, I’ve been sitting with the frustration that arises when we put ourselves in these types of scenarios and have learned to appreciate that when there is complete awareness that a path will not give us the outcome that we desire, but we choose it anyway, that sometimes we are honoring the phase that we are at in learning our lesson.
We all have a different pace in which we learn and we grasp certain things quicker than others.
Life lessons don’t have an expiration date. Some take a lifetime to completely comprehend.
If we walk away from each repeat experience with more knowledge, a better understanding of ourselves, our motivations, our intentions, our wants and needs, that is progress in learning the lesson.
We move from one phase to another only when we are ready. And, sometimes in order to be fully ready, we need to experience some repeats.
If we keep an awareness of what we are doing and don’t kid ourselves about where the path will end, if we don’t place ourselves and others in a dangerous situation, then it is okay to honor where we are, even if that means repeats.
It takes guts to travel down the same road for the sake of self-awareness and understanding. When we choose to walk down a known path knowing that our external desires won’t be met in the end of it, but that our internal knowledge will be nourished, we become fighters, not victims.
So, yes, those life lessons may resurface 2 or 3 times before we get them. We may walk a road so many times that we come know it by heart, but ultimately we each travel our lives at our own pace, and that pace fluctuates many times throughout our lifetime.
Not all of us learned how to walk or talk or dress ourselves at the same age and we turned out okay.
What are your thoughts on learning life lessons? I’d love to hear them!