That restless feeling – you know the one I’m talking about? When you’ve worked on something or even yourself so very hard and you have yet to manifest what you’ve been working for…and all you have left to do is be patient – that is the type of restlessness I’m referring to.
You have to be patient, because some things take time. No one builds a skyscraper over night.
But, waiting to see the fruits of your labor, well, it’s killer. When we put in all the effort and work that is needed and the only thing left to do is to wait, we start to feel restless.
Being patient is absolutely brutal, especially when we are waiting for manifestations that mean much to us.
The thought of waiting brings a picture of inactivity, something that we have no control over. This is possibly the most difficult reality of having to be patient; there is a sense that there is nothing that we can do, we have no control, we are at the mercy of time.
But, there is a difference between passive waiting and engaged waiting.
The former means holding our breath, worrying, becoming disillusioned with each day that goes by without seeing the full results that we’d like to have.
The latter holds us accountable for living while waiting. It means that we continue to give our energy to the act of living.
When life requires us to be patient it is not asking us to stop participating; it is asking us to let things be for the moment, to have confidence in the work that we’ve put forth, and to continue engaging with life.
Patience requires that we make friends with confidence and hope.
Patience asks us to search for inner strength to fight off fear and doubt.
What patience requires of us is not simple; it is difficult and tiresome. It is easier to give into doubt, to begin to believe that our continuous effort and work will not pay off.
And when we begin to give into doubt it can lead to cynicism, a cynicism that leaves us feeling defeated and fearful that we will never see the fruits of our labor.
But, when we engage in life it leaves less room for us to dwell in these type of thoughts that feed anxiety.
Waiting for something does not mean taking a hiatus from life. If anything, it is during times that require us to be patient that we should be engaging even more with life.
When we exert energy in experiences that bring us excitement, or peace, or just make us feel good, then we become less obsessed with seeing instantaneous results.
When we participate in life we are more prone to feel a fulfillment that provides us with the strength and confidence that we will manifest what we’ve been working towards obtaining.
It is also necessary to appreciate that slow progress is still progress – this still counts as results. When we do not see the totality of what we are trying to achieve in one fell swoop we oftentimes overlook the small progressions that signal to us that we are getting closer to our goal – that we are on the right path.
I’m not going to lie; patience is not an area that I’ve excelled in.
The thought of needing to be patient makes me want to throw a temper tantrum at the same level of the unruly toddler who thrashes around the grocery store floor when his parents refuse to buy him the toy he wants.
But, patience is unavoidable.
It’s a trait that helps us get through life with less grief and more grace.
All the things that matter to us to now, chances are that they all took time: it takes time to excel in your career, it takes time to build your relationships, it takes time to make a home, it takes time to get in shape.
After putting in the effort and the work, patience becomes the next step. And it is in this step that we get the opportunity to finesse our virtues.
How do you deal with situations that require you to be patient?