Our third love series post is written by the awesome Lisa from The Creative Canvass. If you missed them, the first love series post is here and the second one can be found here. All the way from Australia, Lisa shares one of her greatest loves with us!
Love, it’s such a small word that has a lot of pressure put upon it.
It’s bandied about a lot; sometimes it’s overused, and under-appreciated. There’s even a full day in February dedicated to it, a day where there’s lots of pressure to be in love, spend time with the one you love, and even be the first to say the word love.
I have lots of loves in my life. I love a good block of chocolate, eating hot jam donuts, hot chips and spaghetti bolognese are things I would love to eat everyday, and my greatest all time love is lollies…um okay it appears I really only love food, and I love it A LOT.
Whenever we speak of the loves of our lives it’s usually a love attached to something tangible. But I’m here to tell you about the biggest love of my life (after lollies of course) and guess what? It’s totally intangible.
This love that I speak of is the love of spending time alone….love for good old fashioned quietness and enjoying your own company.
The biggest benefit of loving time to yourself is that you get to do what you want, when you want, and how you want. You get to do all those things that you don’t want to share with others, or that you don’t want others to know about.
It’s like the episode in Sex and The City where the girls talk about their secret single behaviour, things that they only do when they are alone. You know the one; it’s where Carrie admits to her love of eating saltines with grape jelly whilst standing in her kitchen reading fashion magazines. When Charlotte admits that she loves to study her pores in a magnifying glass every night for an hour, and Miranda confesses that she loves to put Vaseline on her hands, put them in conditioning gloves, and watch infomercials.
So, if spending time by yourself is something that you’d love to start to do, then here are some fantastic activities to try:
- If you don’t have one already, find your own secret single behaviour. I have so many, but one I do constantly is watch back to back episodes of The Middle whilst eating chocolate.
- Go out for coffee and cake, or get your favourite greasy takeaway. It’s so much more enjoyable when you can gorge yourself silly without anyone making comments, or asking if they can have some of your food.
- Satisfy your guilty book, TV, or movie pleasure. I love the girliest of movies but don’t like to watch them with anyone else as I feel that they don’t appreciate them quite like I do.
- Take a road trip. Stop at your favourite food places, pump up the volume on your favourite music, stop at random locations just because, play audio books, sing as loud as you please, be alone with your thoughts. Doesn’t this sound like paradise?
- Start a hobby, which can be absolutely anything you want. Paint, write, finish projects around the house, fly a kite, sail a boat – the options are endless.
- Plan a trip that you will take either on your own or with others. Is there somewhere you’ve been dying to go to for ages?
- Do whatever you want and don’t be afraid to do it. Just enjoy the serenity, enjoy your own time and embrace it.
Being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. In fact, it means that you have a more fulfilling life as you aren’t relying on others to make you happy.
You are allocating time to the person who’s most important in your life – you.
Learning to love spending time by yourself teaches you to enjoy the moment, recharge, think about what you want in life, and even appreciate the times you spend with others more.
So here’s to love. Love for others, love for good food, love for corny TV, but most importantly love for yourself.
*For additional inspiration on how rewarding spending time alone can be, check out this video:
Lisa is the creator of The Creative Canvass, started in June 2014. Lisa’s lifestyle blog centers on all things travel, food, life, and home related posts. The Creative Canvass is a place where ideas are shaped, thoughts are shared, and journeys are taken. It’s a clean slate, a canvass, which can be shaped and coloured in any way needed at any particular time.
When Lisa’s not blogging, you can find her eating something sweet whilst watching a rom com, or dreaming about her next travel adventure.